This morning, someone asked me, “how do you deal with negative people?” and I thought this would be a wonderful opportunity to share with you all my answer, for those that wonder the same thing.
I hope it helps 🙏
First of all, I am so happy to hear that you love your job and are being paid your worth, that makes so excited for you!
Now, if it were me dealing with negative people around me, (and I have been in that situation when I worked at my corporate job, many moons ago) is this…. suspend judgment. When we view other people as negative, we are actually JUDGING them. We think, “they are not like me, they’re a pain in the ass, their life would be so much better if they weren’t like that, why can’t they just be like this, why can’t they just act like that, why do they do that” etc. etc.
When we suspend judgment, we stop seeing things and people as good or bad, and instead, simply, as it just IS. Sometimes, we project our own insecurities onto other people, thus creating MORE judgment, and judgment is a crappy energy. It is a low-level negative energy, so you feel as if this negativity is coming from THEM, but it is actually coming from YOU.
Even more, when we judge other people, we see them as separate from ourselves. We may all look different, we may all have different skin colors, hair color, ethnicities and so on, but we are all EQUAL members of the SAME family. That may be hard to believe and accept, but it’s that belief that keeps us in judgment. We all came from the same place. We were all created from the same Source. Hell yes, we are all ONE! The sooner you start to see those people around you as your brothers and sisters, the sooner you will be free from your judgment and from the negative energy that you feel around them.
This is important because when you are in judgment of others, you put that energy out, and on a subconscious level, they feel it, become defensive, and then their guard is up around you. They start to act in a (seemingly negative) way towards you, as they are subconsciously trying to protect themselves from your judgment.
So step number one: suspend judgment.
Accept these people for who they are. This is who they are. Accepting them does not mean condoning their behavior, it means no longer punishing them and thinking negatively of them for who they are. Punishing others is not your job anyways. On a soul level, you feel bad for looking down on these people, for seeing them ONLY as the human beings they are, instead of the SPIRITUAL beings they truly are-the brother and sister they are to you on a soul level. When you accept them for who they are, you stop resisting what is, polluting the world with judgmental energy, punishing them, and seeing them as separate from you.
Step two: elevate your own energy.
On a metaphysical level, you CANNOT be a match for negativity, if you are not vibrating negativity. Judgement and separation (seeing them as separate from you) right now, has you putting that energy out, which attracts these people and their behavior. Focus on yourself. Focus on your light. Focus on being the example you want to see in the world. We have lost when we let others rob us of our peace and happiness. You will never be happy, if it’s dependent on everyone around you behaving a certain way. No matter what is going on, you can still be YOU. You can still be the YOU, you want to see more of in this world. So step number two has two parts. Part A, is to focus on yourself and elevating your own energy so you are no longer a match for low level energy. Part B, is be YOU. Be the light. Don’t let what is going on around you, bring you down. You want happy people in your life? BE that happy person and you will attract more people like that.
Lastly, step three, is to turn your fears, worries, feelings of judgment, and stresses to your Higher Power.
What do you call your Higher Power? God? Universe? Creator? The Mother-Lode? Let’s go with Universe, but of course, call It whatever feels comfortable to you. You can’t go wrong here. Take all of your fears and concerns, and surrender them to the Universe to help you heal these issues. We only know so much. We can only do so much. When you call upon the Universe to help you, and you surrender your worries to It, It can move mountains on your behalf and help guide you to a solution that you couldn’t come up on your own.
So there you have it!
I hope this helps!