Prayer is when we talk to God, meditation is when we listen. You only know so much. Buddha said it best:
“Meditation brings wisdom; lack of mediation leaves ignorance. Know well what leads you forward and what hold you back, and choose the path that leads to wisdom.” – Buddha
It’s my intention for you to become open to meditation, to peak your curiosity enough that you decide to give it a try, and then for meditation to become your happy pill, your go-to tool for when you feel stressed, tired, need some guidance, a confidence boost, support and/or to feel loved.
Clearly, I got a whole lot of intentions for ya when it comes to meditation.
And with good reason! It’s because meditation can do so much for you! It took me FOREVERRRR and a day to get down with meditating, and I wish I had started sooner. Now for you, I understand you may have no desire to meditate, not believe in it, not want to do it, or say that you’re too busy.
Well, you’re missing out homey.
Meditation provides answers, insights, reflections, support, and guidance that you cannot access anywhere else. When you meditate you are connecting with a power greater than yourself. When I began meditating, it was HARD. But I stuck with it, and I’ve gotten to the point where now, I download messages, insight, love, support, and answers from God, The Universe, my Guardian Angles, or from my Highest Self. Without meditation, I would be so lost. I would be depended on only my small, little brain to take me through life. That sucks. Considering our brains can only function and see/do so much.
Being dependent on yourself only, and trying to live this life in this world, all by yourself…well, it’s really shitty isn’t it? It’s freaking overwhelming, difficult and just HARDDD! Life can be HARDDD! We can freely admit that! It’s not always rainbows and unicorns. Avocado toast and matcha lattes. Life can be HARDDD. Meditation makes your life easier by strengthening your intuition. You’ll begin to trust yourself more and more. Meditation connects you to your Highest Self. The part of you that came from your Creator. Whatever you call your creator. This is super important! This is how we can hear the little messages that our unconscious mind, our Highest Self and God are trying to give us.
Through this connection, we receive signals via feelings or thoughts that can help us with whatever is going on in our lives!
A few days ago, a private client sent me an SOS text message. She was having a bad day at work and freaking out. Five seconds after I got it, I sent her a reply that she said blew her away. She asked me if I had written that reply at that moment and I said YEAH! She was amazed at the fact that I said EXACTLY what she needed to hear. She asked me how I could do that so quickly and I told her- Years of practice. Years of showing up for the practices that strengthen my connection and relationship with God. I don’t need to know WHAT to say to someone. So many coaches freak themselves out, they think they can’t work with clients or help people out because they don’t know what to say. You don’t have to! I NEVER know what I’m going to say. I connect with a power greater than myself, and I let THEIR guidance come through me. I let THEM tell me what to say that that will help someone. What the hell do I know? But God knows everything. So by having such an awesome relationship with my Higher Power, I can connect with It, and receive the download of what to say to that will help someone.
You don’t have to know what to say, you just have to be an open CHANNEL to receive the download of what to say.
The more you are consistent with your meditation practice, the more that little voice in your head becomes stronger and wiser, and you’ll go about your life feeling secure, feeling safe and feeling like you’re taken care of because, you will no longer feel alone. Like you’re doing life, by yourself and just hoping things work out. It’s an amazing and incredible feeling!
I want that feeling for you so badly!
And you know what else happens, as you meditate and strengthen your intuition and that wise little voice in your head? Not only will you be guided towards how to live your best life and what to do, but also, you’ll be kept from making dumbass mistakes! Such as next time when the voice of your Highest Self tells you that it’s a badddddd idea to attend your ex-boyfriend’s wedding, you’ll actually listen to it! Or when It tells you that it’s time to take a leap of faith, quit your job, and execute your God-given right to pursue happiness, you won’t be afraid. You won’t freak the fuck out wondering how you’ll pay your bills. Instead, you will be filled with faith and trust and knowing, that the Universe has your back!
Like I said, it took me a long time to “get into” meditation. I couldn’t deal with sitting still. At the time I thought there was just one right way of doing it…sit still and think about nothing.
Sitting still made me fidget. And itchy. And reminded me of the things I needed to add to my grocery list and oh, I better go add them right now before I forget.
Whooshhhhh. There went my peace.
When you catch the chatter in your head, you’re supposed to bring your attention back to your breath, but this was easier said than done.
Eventually, I realized that no ONE way of meditating that is right, and so I began experimenting with all different types such as guided, musical, singing bowls, walking, chanting and so on.
I encourage you to do the same.
If one form of meditating does not resonate with you, try another, it’s so worth the effort. I kept going and reached that point where now meditating opens the channels for me to receive support from my Creator, Guardian Angels, and Highest Self.
I have a whole team of magnificent and Infinite Intelligence here to support me and guide me to living a freaking awesome life.
You have the same team too.
How to meditate
So again there is no ONE right way, but here are my seven steps to getting started…
1. If you’re not following a guided meditation or doing an active, walking meditation, then set your timer for however long you want. If you’re new to meditating or sitting still in general, start with 5 to 10 minutes and work your way up to 20 minutes. Don’t rush it. Start with whatever time frame is comfortable for you. Over time, and with practice, you’ll NATURALLY find yourself wanting to meditate for longer periods of time.
2. Get comfortable. Ideally, you want to be seated either cross-legged, or your feet firmly planted on the ground. Sit up straight. Relax your jaw, your neck, your shoulders. Place your hands, palms up, on your knees.
3. To begin, take a deep breath in through your nose filling up your stomach like a balloon, and then exhale out through your mouth. Repeat this four more times. This will help your body and mind relax, and get “in the zone”.
4. After your five initial deep breaths, continue breathing in and out through your nose. Focus on your breath as it goes in and out.
5. If your mind wanders, that’s ok. Don’t be mean, don’t judge your thoughts, just notice them, let them go, and then bring your attention back to the rhythm of your breath going in and out.
6. When it’s time to end your practice, first, don’t judge your practice. Whether you were “in the zone” the entire time, or you thought about what you were going to be making for dinner…it’s important not to judge the practice. You did show up, and you did your best. Secondly, end your meditation with a nod of acknowledgment for showing up for your practice. Feel proud of yourself for making the time to meditate. It doesn’t matter if your practice was 5 minutes or 50 minutes. What matters is you took the time, and you showed up. Don’t judge your practice, acknowledge it.
7. Repeat daily. One thing that helps make meditation a daily part of my life, (and one I look forward to) is discipline. I make the commitment to myself to show up to that mat EVERY.SINGLE.DAY. It doesn’t matter if it’s only for 5 minutes, what matters is that I show up every day to my practice. Thanks to my discipline, I have become more open and comfortable with meditating, and now I spend 15-40 minutes daily sitting in silence, not itching or thinking about my to-do list. So honor your practice by showing up daily to your mat/cushion/chair or wherever you meditate. With discipline and consistency, you will see why everyone is falling in love with meditation.
with love & wine,